Building quality relationships is a key goal in life. In the classic self-help book How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie lays out 30 principles on how to win friends and influence people. One of the principles that stuck with me was to become genuinely interested in other people.
One of the easiest ways I’ve found to practice this principle, is to try it out on those you live with every day. Today I’d like to share with you one idea on how to show more genuine interest in your family members. Perhaps then you can try to implement this simple change over the next several days.
It begins with asking questions. That’s it. That’s the secret to building a relationship. You must show genuine interest. You ask questions and show a sincere, genuine desire to know what the answer is. Let’s talk through one example that works well for beginning this dialogue.
One of the best times in our house is around the dinner table. During this time, we try to ask our kids some specific questions about their day. One rule to follow in order to be effective is to not allow one word answers. You know, the typical conversation, “Hey buddy, how was your day?” Answer: “Fine, good, okay,” or some other quick response.
Two questions my wife likes to ask are: “What was a high point you had today?” and “What was a low point you had today?” These questions require everyone take a few minutes, rewind the day in their head and come up with a specific answer of substance.
We might follow up an answer with some more questions to better understand the situation or offer advice if needed. By the end of the meal, we have had a dinner full of meaningful conversations and have spent quality time connecting with each other.
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Showing genuine interest in those whom you live with everyday can be a tremendous blessing in each family member’s life. Whether you’re a newly married couple, a couple with one or more kids, or an empty nester, take the time to be more intentional about the interest you show in those you love the most. It’s a simple step to take in building quality relationships.
I’d love to hear other ideas that have worked for you on how to better show genuine interest in those you love in the comments below!
